For as long as I can remember I've wanted to visit New York City, alone, in the fall, while single. Three weeks ago I did just that. I went with a romantic idea that I would go to New York, fall in love, and become a wild version of my regular, serious self. The trip didn't exactly unfold that way.
Day one looked very similar to the next six. I stuck in the routine of waking up early, practice at a local yoga studio, make breakfast and strap on my walking shoes to get exploring the most incredible city. I wanted to immerse myself as much as possible and be a "New Yorker" for a week. Turns out that is easy to do since New Yorkers are some of the nicest and most accepting people. Yes, there are many neighbourhoods that have significant "class", but as a whole people are real.
New York is known for its food. Everywhere you go there are restaurants, markets, and street vendors. Traveling in the past has given me anxiety. I would wonder how I would get to a grocery store? If I had to eat out, what would I have? What could I prepare in advance and bring on my trip? Luckily that was then. I am in the now. I was able to go with the flow and eat on the go. I didn't 100% take advantage of the abundance of food, not because I didn't want to, but because I didn't want to slow down and put exploring on hold. That week I most likely ate more apples and bananas than I have in my lifetime, fruit carts are abundant and it's easy to keep a steady pace with an apple in hand. My most memorable sit down meal was in Brooklyn.
Some of you know that I love to ferment everything. This passion for fermentation has led me down the sourdough path. I previously would only eat bread I prepared. Bien Cuit broke me. Small batch baking with slow fermentation allows these award winning bakers more control over each individual loaf. I ate real bread, that I did not prepare, and it was perfect. I didn't bloat, get sick, or stress. I mindfully ate with love. My previous negative thoughts with a meal would be the reason I would "feel" poorly. Mindful eating is one tool I use daily and recommend.
While out for a walk with a friend, I mentioned how I lived simply while in NYC. He mentioned sometimes you need to go away, to come back with an assurance you are who you are. My simple, daily life of doing the things I love is exactly why I'm living in Nelson. Living here has given me the tools to prioritize. I'm simple, serious, and happy. I'm 100% Alex and don't want to be anyone else. Going away has confirmed I'm exactly where I need to be.
"Above all, be the heroine of your own life, not the victim."